I heard the word "fair" a lot growing up. It created expectations that failed to match reality, which caused depression & triggered anxieties.
Over the past year, I've been striving to let go of using the word 'fair' entirely. The word 'fair' is actually completely irrelevant to actual reality, & applying it generally only creates negative energy: fear, doubt, anger, resentment, self-loathing, etc.
Fairness is irrelevant to healing, growth, transforming trauma, unleashing our true potential, pursuing happiness, creating a beautiful life.
The more we use the word 'fair', the more we limit ourselves by distorting our expectations.